Some people think that the term "Emotions" has something to do with "Feelings"-well, it does not!. Emotions are just the reaction to that specific 'feeling'. Its that lil' voice inside your head asking: "How does this FEELING make me FEEL?".-I know, the dumbest question EVER!. But, if you think about it, it makes sense!.
Because the answer to that "DUMB" question-thats the meaning of "Emotions"!.
Ok, now lets go a lil' further.........How should we react to these 'Emotions'?...Well, my friend, that depends. Cuz if you are in love with someone(which its a feeling,not an emotion!), well, you feel the urge to be with that person 27/7-Literally attached ti him(her)!.........Now, if you react to that emotion(without thinking about it)-that could lead to: get arrested, being known as a 'pervert'(or a sl*t) for the rest of your life,a restriction order.........or all of the above!.
But, on the other hand, if you dont react AT ALL you are going to be remembered as loser, a low-life, a coward, being falsely accused of being 'gay'(or lesbian)..........or all the above!.
I know, its a complete mind-f*ck!. But its not that complicated-"Drop that knife, Emo!.I swear it its not!-ok.......now my advice: It is all about a key word: BALANCE...Because, like I mentioned on 'words of(...)about "feelings"...every emotion-taken to the extremes=CHAOS!..........You just have to find a 'happy medium'.....ok,how?......lets say you obviously cant be with that person 24/7,but you still want to let him(her) now how you feel. Use your imagination: whether its a letter,a song, a poem-or a Facebook post(which its kinda cheap-and overrated but WTV....); the thing is letting that person know that he(she) means a lot to you.("no,he/she doesnt mean EVERYTHING to you, dont say that!. You're obviously lying cuz you love your mom,right?...or your cat?...so, dont take it to the EXTREME,ok?"). And, once you do that, you would be proud of yourself for keeping your emotions under control.
And, before you ask,the same advice goes to the opposite feeling "HATE"-just dont even let it evoque an emotion on you-why?...Cuz its not worth it. That idiot who made your life a living hell is happy doing whatever with whoever,so, let it be...and "MOVE ON!"....I know its not easy AT ALL(trust me I know!) but its not impossible either. Show that S-O-B who's the bigger person and be happy......God bless................
~ alex.
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Thursday, September 15, 2011
Words of wisdom (and boredom) about....."REVENGE".
Some people say that "Revenge its a dish thats better served cold"...Now the thing is if this 'dish' its even worth to be 'served'-or not. Should you fight 'fire with fire' or just 'kill (...) with kindness'?. Wao, though one, huh?.
Well, in my "unofficial and unauthorized" opinion.........well, that depends. Cuz there are some things that are just sooo meaningless and ridiculous that its not even worth your time. But, there are other situations(some of them have a Full Name) than just hearing about 'it' makes your heart beat so fast you feel it down to your...feet!.
There are even situations in which you have been so humiliated, kicked, punched, left-out, turned down(.....you get my point)-that you just want that 'S-O-B's' head on a silver plate!!!!!!!(*deep breath*). But thats the moment when you need to sit, try to relax and think about if its worth it or not. Cuz if you're thinking about that bi*** who "stole" your boyfriend(or that a*hole who "stole" your girlfriend)- NEWSFLASH!: Nobody steals Nobody!. He(she) left by himself(or herself)-yeah!-you're welcome!.
Sorry, but thats the harsh truth.So, drop that knife and let life takes its natural course. Remember "what goes around, comes around"; trust me, it does....Of course, you will always have that bitter aftertaste just because you didnt got your hands dirty(but sometimes, you just have to deal with the fact that its not worth it!).
Still, there is another example where I DO SUPPORT REVENGE: Lets say you're not the 'prototypical cheerleader-or jock' at high school and you have been victim of 'bullying'. Now, in this case, you know what they say: "Desperate times call for desperate measures": And, in this particular case, you have 3 'partners in crime': Photoshop, a Printer and Your School Walls-yep!. Exactly!- You're welcome. (Dont worry, your secret its safe with me....."buahahaha-LOL!".
............Now, dont blame me if they throw you into a dumpster-all in the name of 'revenge'-but hey, at least you had your 5 minutes of-"yeah, take that you douche!!!!". Those 5 minutes are the equivalent to 5 years in "nerd time", so be graateful that you're going to be EPIC!. (Yeap, just like the "Luke, I am your father" scene on Star Wars).
So, maybe your revenge came back to bit you in the a*s, but at least you took one for all of us geeks and outcasts inside this 'plastic universe'; so, "may the force be with you"...I mean, thanks!".
~ alex.
Well, in my "unofficial and unauthorized" opinion.........well, that depends. Cuz there are some things that are just sooo meaningless and ridiculous that its not even worth your time. But, there are other situations(some of them have a Full Name) than just hearing about 'it' makes your heart beat so fast you feel it down to your...feet!.
There are even situations in which you have been so humiliated, kicked, punched, left-out, turned down(.....you get my point)-that you just want that 'S-O-B's' head on a silver plate!!!!!!!(*deep breath*). But thats the moment when you need to sit, try to relax and think about if its worth it or not. Cuz if you're thinking about that bi*** who "stole" your boyfriend(or that a*hole who "stole" your girlfriend)- NEWSFLASH!: Nobody steals Nobody!. He(she) left by himself(or herself)-yeah!-you're welcome!.
Sorry, but thats the harsh truth.So, drop that knife and let life takes its natural course. Remember "what goes around, comes around"; trust me, it does....Of course, you will always have that bitter aftertaste just because you didnt got your hands dirty(but sometimes, you just have to deal with the fact that its not worth it!).
Still, there is another example where I DO SUPPORT REVENGE: Lets say you're not the 'prototypical cheerleader-or jock' at high school and you have been victim of 'bullying'. Now, in this case, you know what they say: "Desperate times call for desperate measures": And, in this particular case, you have 3 'partners in crime': Photoshop, a Printer and Your School Walls-yep!. Exactly!- You're welcome. (Dont worry, your secret its safe with me....."buahahaha-LOL!".
............Now, dont blame me if they throw you into a dumpster-all in the name of 'revenge'-but hey, at least you had your 5 minutes of-"yeah, take that you douche!!!!". Those 5 minutes are the equivalent to 5 years in "nerd time", so be graateful that you're going to be EPIC!. (Yeap, just like the "Luke, I am your father" scene on Star Wars).
So, maybe your revenge came back to bit you in the a*s, but at least you took one for all of us geeks and outcasts inside this 'plastic universe'; so, "may the force be with you"...I mean, thanks!".
~ alex.
Words of wisdom (and boredom) about....."Love is(NOT)all you need".
*sigh*...LOVE....it is one of those feelings that people have twisted and turned into this-fictitious, provocative, astonishing, majestic, careless, breathtaking(to name a few)-sort of 'phenomenom'. Sure, it sounds romantic and even 'promising'; but, truth be told, thats all a metaphor, an infamous cliche invented by some 'self-proclaimed poem' in a desperate attempt to show off and gain notoriety.
Unfortunately, people have embraced this idea of "love" which its not realistic at all. And,no, I am not going to preach about the 'biblical meaning' of Love(even though that's the true meaning...). I am going to give you my point of view about this "oh, so exploited" topic.......
.........To me, its a lil' of what I mentioned before(just a lil').....cuz in reality its a much deeper feeling.....in terms of commitment, cuz its not a-'til death do us part-kind of feeling, its Eternal. Maybe its breathtaking, but that-"I cant live without you!"-that its Borderline Psychotic!!!!. It could be felt as astonishing and careless but in reality its anything but: it has its 'bad days' and if you really feel love for someone all that you do is take CARE of that person, so,"careless?"...I dont think so. And yes, it sure its provocative at times, lets be honest, we're all human...but if what you feel is true love, then that strong feeling goes way beyond physical contact; if you really love someone, so much that you want to spend the rest of your life with him(or her), trust me, its worth the wait, so, its not even that 'passionate' after all.
The thinng is that-"all you need is love"(with the popular definition of the term) has turned into a modern-day classic. And, really?. Trying to explain the REAL meaning of that word.....*sigh*... FEELS LIKE IM REINVENTING THE WHEEL HERE!........
......Sure its romantic, and frenetic, and yes, makes you want to live like theres no tomorrow and take the most dangerous risks for that 'special someone', but underneath all of that flaming, exhilarating-even tempting-emotions, theres another part of love that its soooo overlooked by people most of the times. Its an equal amount of: responsability, loyalty, honesty, purity, respect, struggle, security, kindness, optimism, fearlessness, innocense(yet maturity). And I know what you're probably thinking..."Boring!"....but, thats the 'real deal'. If you just think that love its like a-"Live fast, die young"-sort of feeling-its not Love...that its LUST!....Which not only its not a feeling-its one of the 7 deadly sins,"hello!"-(so...no thnx!).....
But, its not boring at all, trust me, it has its adventurous, 'passive-aggressive' moments, it is enthusiastic, and one thing its for sure, it is UNAVOIDABLE(.....yeap...just like death...).
Trust is, sometimes people are just "in love with the idea of being in love", and they forget that it goes beyond that-"Oh, how romantic!"-portray. It is more than a feeling; its a bond, a commitment, a pact; it is knowing that you will have that "special someone" there no matter what, even when things turn sour and everything seeme to come crashing down, even when your daily schedules seem to be rivals cuz you barely have time to be together, even when both of you start having growing careers and your lives start to turn into a ROUTINE(...I know, that DOES sounds boring)-but my point is.......regardless all of the above 'blablabla'; knowing that your 'Romeo'(or 'Juliet') its there for you through EVERYTHING....now thats LOVE!.
Ok, I know its a lil' cliche...but its true!. It has both sides: the positive and negative-just like everything else in life.
................So, I guess I have achieved my goal....maybe I didnt "reinvent the wheel", but I gave you the inside story about this '4-letter-dilemma'.........
~ alex.
Unfortunately, people have embraced this idea of "love" which its not realistic at all. And,no, I am not going to preach about the 'biblical meaning' of Love(even though that's the true meaning...). I am going to give you my point of view about this "oh, so exploited" topic.......
.........To me, its a lil' of what I mentioned before(just a lil').....cuz in reality its a much deeper feeling.....in terms of commitment, cuz its not a-'til death do us part-kind of feeling, its Eternal. Maybe its breathtaking, but that-"I cant live without you!"-that its Borderline Psychotic!!!!. It could be felt as astonishing and careless but in reality its anything but: it has its 'bad days' and if you really feel love for someone all that you do is take CARE of that person, so,"careless?"...I dont think so. And yes, it sure its provocative at times, lets be honest, we're all human...but if what you feel is true love, then that strong feeling goes way beyond physical contact; if you really love someone, so much that you want to spend the rest of your life with him(or her), trust me, its worth the wait, so, its not even that 'passionate' after all.
The thinng is that-"all you need is love"(with the popular definition of the term) has turned into a modern-day classic. And, really?. Trying to explain the REAL meaning of that word.....*sigh*... FEELS LIKE IM REINVENTING THE WHEEL HERE!........
......Sure its romantic, and frenetic, and yes, makes you want to live like theres no tomorrow and take the most dangerous risks for that 'special someone', but underneath all of that flaming, exhilarating-even tempting-emotions, theres another part of love that its soooo overlooked by people most of the times. Its an equal amount of: responsability, loyalty, honesty, purity, respect, struggle, security, kindness, optimism, fearlessness, innocense(yet maturity). And I know what you're probably thinking..."Boring!"....but, thats the 'real deal'. If you just think that love its like a-"Live fast, die young"-sort of feeling-its not Love...that its LUST!....Which not only its not a feeling-its one of the 7 deadly sins,"hello!"-(so...no thnx!).....
But, its not boring at all, trust me, it has its adventurous, 'passive-aggressive' moments, it is enthusiastic, and one thing its for sure, it is UNAVOIDABLE(.....yeap...just like death...).
Trust is, sometimes people are just "in love with the idea of being in love", and they forget that it goes beyond that-"Oh, how romantic!"-portray. It is more than a feeling; its a bond, a commitment, a pact; it is knowing that you will have that "special someone" there no matter what, even when things turn sour and everything seeme to come crashing down, even when your daily schedules seem to be rivals cuz you barely have time to be together, even when both of you start having growing careers and your lives start to turn into a ROUTINE(...I know, that DOES sounds boring)-but my point is.......regardless all of the above 'blablabla'; knowing that your 'Romeo'(or 'Juliet') its there for you through EVERYTHING....now thats LOVE!.
Ok, I know its a lil' cliche...but its true!. It has both sides: the positive and negative-just like everything else in life.
................So, I guess I have achieved my goal....maybe I didnt "reinvent the wheel", but I gave you the inside story about this '4-letter-dilemma'.........
~ alex.
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Words of wisdom(and boredom) about: "FEELINGS".
Have you ever felt soooo much pain that you wish you had no feelings at all, so that way no one can hurt you?. I have. So, here's an advice based on my own experience: BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR!.
Know why?...Because the only thing worse than feeling pain is feeling NOTHING AT ALL!. Yeah, I know, it doesnt make sense but, trust me,I mean it......... 'cuz at least when you have your "sour moments", those feelings make you realize that you're still alive.....so deep inside(VERY VERY deep inside sometimes) there's a lil' hope hidden somewhere. But, when you feel nothing, not even pain-nor remorse-then you ARE NOT HUMAN!!!!!!!! Period!!!!!.......... 'cuz having this "Emotional roller coaster"......thats part of being humans. We are not perfect, but sometimes,we think we are, we try to play God....and you know what happens to the first idiot that attempted that, right?..........yeap, he screwed himself over and you know how the story ended up for him, right?.
So, go ahead, FEEL!. Ok, I know exactly what you're thinking, ''what a insensitive bi***!'''..........But, I know how it feels, that fire burning inside of you, so hurtful you rather be dead!. But, like I mentioned before-it comes with the whole package of being package of being ''human''-so,you just have to deal with it, pray for strenght, and move on.
.....And, you know why?............ 'çuz its okay to feel pain, sadness-even pessimism-sometimes, the only thing you have to keep in mind is that you cant let those feelings take control over you. Thats the secret...plain & simple(...and the same goes to be always extremely cheerful and ''ÝAY!''-dude, thats annoying!, take it down a notch,ok?)-anyways...my point is, that every emotion, taken to the extremes=CHAOS!-Got it?....I hope so, cuz otherwise(if you end up being numb) you are going to be like a living dead,a zombie-and its not as cool as it sounds-not only you are going to be numb to all of the pain and suffering in your life, you are going to be numb to all of those beautiful, satisfying feelings as well. You're going to have that-''I dont give a fu**!''-attitude, and not only that, youre going to end up dying alone...cuz lets be honest, who wants to spend time with such a loser?. I know I dont, thats why, whenever I feel like theres no escape, I write all my sh** down, since thats one of my talents(and yes, you have one also)......just do whatever makes you happy at that specific moment(keep your mind busy!). That way, that major douche who tried to play God(I mentioned 'it' before) cant fool with your mind, cuz youre keeping it busy with positive stuff(...remember,POSITIVE STUFF...if that means 'álcohol, drugs,or porn' for you...then he fu**** up with your mind already.....so, NO!).
Im not saying that you can always have control over your emotions(I know I cant, but I got help and thankfully Im stable at least)-the thing is, whenever you feel like you cant handle the situation on your own(even when youre not alone cuz God''s always with you), you have to get help, its okay to get help,you are not perfect......so......learn how to deal with the fact that you are just a human,give up on perfection, and move on!....
(P.S. This statements are part of a HUGE lesson that the author-a.k.a. me-learned,the hard way of course, since Im a stubborn bi***!!!!!!!. So,kids, do not try this at home!.....God bless!!!!).
~ alex.
Know why?...Because the only thing worse than feeling pain is feeling NOTHING AT ALL!. Yeah, I know, it doesnt make sense but, trust me,I mean it......... 'cuz at least when you have your "sour moments", those feelings make you realize that you're still alive.....so deep inside(VERY VERY deep inside sometimes) there's a lil' hope hidden somewhere. But, when you feel nothing, not even pain-nor remorse-then you ARE NOT HUMAN!!!!!!!! Period!!!!!.......... 'cuz having this "Emotional roller coaster"......thats part of being humans. We are not perfect, but sometimes,we think we are, we try to play God....and you know what happens to the first idiot that attempted that, right?..........yeap, he screwed himself over and you know how the story ended up for him, right?.
So, go ahead, FEEL!. Ok, I know exactly what you're thinking, ''what a insensitive bi***!'''..........But, I know how it feels, that fire burning inside of you, so hurtful you rather be dead!. But, like I mentioned before-it comes with the whole package of being package of being ''human''-so,you just have to deal with it, pray for strenght, and move on.
.....And, you know why?............ 'çuz its okay to feel pain, sadness-even pessimism-sometimes, the only thing you have to keep in mind is that you cant let those feelings take control over you. Thats the secret...plain & simple(...and the same goes to be always extremely cheerful and ''ÝAY!''-dude, thats annoying!, take it down a notch,ok?)-anyways...my point is, that every emotion, taken to the extremes=CHAOS!-Got it?....I hope so, cuz otherwise(if you end up being numb) you are going to be like a living dead,a zombie-and its not as cool as it sounds-not only you are going to be numb to all of the pain and suffering in your life, you are going to be numb to all of those beautiful, satisfying feelings as well. You're going to have that-''I dont give a fu**!''-attitude, and not only that, youre going to end up dying alone...cuz lets be honest, who wants to spend time with such a loser?. I know I dont, thats why, whenever I feel like theres no escape, I write all my sh** down, since thats one of my talents(and yes, you have one also)......just do whatever makes you happy at that specific moment(keep your mind busy!). That way, that major douche who tried to play God(I mentioned 'it' before) cant fool with your mind, cuz youre keeping it busy with positive stuff(...remember,POSITIVE STUFF...if that means 'álcohol, drugs,or porn' for you...then he fu**** up with your mind already.....so, NO!).
Im not saying that you can always have control over your emotions(I know I cant, but I got help and thankfully Im stable at least)-the thing is, whenever you feel like you cant handle the situation on your own(even when youre not alone cuz God''s always with you), you have to get help, its okay to get help,you are not perfect......so......learn how to deal with the fact that you are just a human,give up on perfection, and move on!....
(P.S. This statements are part of a HUGE lesson that the author-a.k.a. me-learned,the hard way of course, since Im a stubborn bi***!!!!!!!. So,kids, do not try this at home!.....God bless!!!!).
~ alex.
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